Yes, you have got it, it’s Flirtology Humpday!
A reader recently asked me, ‘What do men want in a relationship?’ This question is both easy and hard to answer. It is easy because what men want and what women want are not very different these days. It is hard because although it is easy to make generalizations, personal preference will always remain.
It was not so long ago that women had fewer choices in life. Our only path was to marry and have kids. Whilst there is still a way to go before we reach equality, at least now, mostly due to economic power, women do not have to passively wait to be chosen. (Please read previous posts on why women can ask men out and why men shouldn’t have to be the ones to always pay. With economic earning power, comes a shift in traditional gender roles.) Another advantage of modern society is that women can choose to remain single without the stigma of yore.
Ok, but how does this affect what men are looking for in a relationship? The genders do not work in isolation, which means men now are also able to have more freedom from the traditional expectations around finding ‘a good wife’.
In the past, the expectation of the woman in a relationship was to cook, clean, and make men a martini when they got home from work. Look at this little diddy that I found http://www.mentalfloss.com/article/52108/7-tips-keeping-your-man-1950s
These days, most men – at least the ones that I would want you to be in a relationship with, because I think you are awesome – are looking for an equal partner. They want someone whom they can laugh with, depend on, and have great sex with. They want someone whom will fit in with their friends and family, and who will make them look good in public. Now, is that any different from what a woman wants? Have a look here at some recent research showing what men and women want in relationships.
Now for the hard part: individual preferences. Some men want a woman who does the domestic chores (What person wouldn’t? Cleaning is so boring!). Other men are happy to pitch in. Some men want a woman who likes to go out to social events, other men are looking for a partner who likes to stay in and play backgammon. The general comments made earlier, about what men are looking, for remain true. However, it’s these individual preferences that make us fit with one person and not another. And that is how you find your true luuuuurvvve. As usual, my rule is to act like yourself, and you will attract someone who fits with you.